What should you do if your child wants to quit?

There will come a time when your child will be “too tired to go to class today.”  This is a critical point in a child’s training.  This is where you help to teach them about follow-through, commitment, and the ‘never quit’ attitude.

Don’t be concerned about ‘pushing it on your child.’  This is nonsense.  Children wouldn’t go to school, brush their teeth or clean their room if you didn’t ‘push it on them’.  There’s a big difference between helping a child follow through on a goal they agreed to and force feeding something on a child.

When you begin classes agree with your child on some short-term goals such as green belt or brown belt with the understanding that there will be no quitting until the goal is achieved.  The real goal in the training should be Black Belt, but until you’ve had a chance to really understand what it takes to earn a Black Belt, it’s best to set a more reachable initial goal.  Once you’ve determined that Black Belt is your goal, commit to it with full enthusiasm.

However, it’s unrealistic to expect a child not to, at some point, rebel against the effort.  This is natural and should not lead to quitting.  Quitting can quickly become a bad habit.  Facing these types of challenges is part of the training inherent in the Martial Arts.

How Can You Motivate Your Child To Continue? 

Staying with a goal without quitting is an integral skill that has to be instilled by the parent.  This is the very foundation of goal setting and achievement.  Quitting is the very foundation of under-performance and failure.  The world is full of great starters.  Teach your child that it’s the ability to set goals and see them through to their completion that’s most important.

When you’ve been attending with your child and know exactly what’s been happening in class, you can help motivate them for class by reminding them of how much they enjoyed the last class and that they can look forward to seeing their friends in class.

Remember, a black belt is just a white belt that never quit!

Key traits for success in life

Focus
Respect
Self Control
Perserverance
Self Discipline